tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post5599249960093048025..comments2024-03-21T03:17:44.763-07:00Comments on Charity Mom: Divorce RealityJennyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17072566120759578331noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-45285554742513775892013-03-11T14:02:14.962-07:002013-03-11T14:02:14.962-07:00Everything will be all right -- just stay strong a...Everything will be all right -- just stay strong and be positive. I know that it’s never easy to move on. But if you exert an effort while not forcing yourself, you will recover faster. Focus and keep in mind that past is past. Live for the present and be excited for the future!<br /><br />-<a href="http://wblawgroup.com/WebbBordson/Employment-Attorney-San-Diego.html" rel="nofollow">Janay Stiles</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11990244001977253485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-90743513972392323152012-01-30T21:48:13.936-08:002012-01-30T21:48:13.936-08:00Strangest of strange events led me here this eveni...Strangest of strange events led me here this evening and I needed it more than I can say.<br /><br />I've been lightly following your blog since just before Allie passed. I think about you and your family every now and then but only really come to read once a year or less. My husband and I decided on divorce last week after 16.5 years together, 12.5 years of marriage, and 2 kids. We've known each other since we were 9, and been together seriously since we were 15. August 2011 marked the point where we had spent more of our lives together than not.<br /><br />I decided last night that I wanted to get some pictures off of some old Zip disks I had but no longer had the drive for (it broke years ago). So I posted on Facebook asking if I could borrow one, a friend offered one, I picked it up today, went to storage, got my disks, came home, pulled the info off and I discovered my old internet bookmarks from 2006. I just sat down to look through them and found your blog link so I came to see how your two beautiful little girls were doing. Imagine how amazed I was to read of all the changes in your life that are so similar to what I am about to go through...<br /><br />I needed to read of your struggles tonight because I've been very wrapped up in my thoughts of "but who AM I without him?!?" So thank you for sharing your experiences. I see a little bit of light now, knowing that I'll survive this and figure it out little by little.<br /><br />Much love to you all.Rebeldreamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02321659554975513654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-70969739497673242662012-01-23T09:39:11.317-08:002012-01-23T09:39:11.317-08:00I know exactly how you feel. I was married to my e...I know exactly how you feel. I was married to my ex for 7 1/2 years and we even got back together for 2 years after the divorce and it didn't work out. Even though I'm married again, I still miss the friendship I had with my first husband. He was there for things that only if something comes up, he would understand. If something funny happens I wanna call him and tell him about it. If something good happens I wanna call him too. It's hard knowing that it's all gone. I am thankful for my new husband and what he has to offer me but I do mourn the first marriage and the friendship I had with him. I am thankful for what I have these days but never in a million years did I think I'd be where I'm at today. When I said I do back 12 years ago, I thought that was the man I would be with forever, well life has proved me wrong. I do believe everything happens for a reason and am completely happy with my life now.Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02297799860452629521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-47510472255752654992012-01-20T11:17:36.995-08:002012-01-20T11:17:36.995-08:00jenny ive followed u are a long time and sent u me...jenny ive followed u are a long time and sent u messages but havent heard back from u...i am married to a military man and was married for 13 yrs to a military man prior to now and i know how u feel i have cried ive bawled please know im hereAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-69267250169814093312012-01-18T09:21:40.082-08:002012-01-18T09:21:40.082-08:00((((HUGS))))
- Laura((((HUGS))))<br /><br />- Laura.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16334515338568221714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-31878844612240907582012-01-17T06:45:33.929-08:002012-01-17T06:45:33.929-08:00I'm sorry you are going through this difficult...I'm sorry you are going through this difficult time. As someone who has been through the pain of divorce I can relate on that level.<br /><br />Hugs to you!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17579013879922997578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-89441002313783585582012-01-16T17:48:45.896-08:002012-01-16T17:48:45.896-08:00Your honesty is beautiful. Thanks for sharing from...Your honesty is beautiful. Thanks for sharing from your heart. <br />You have opened my eyes to a lot of things I hadn't thought of before. <br />My heart aches for you, and rejoices with you.Sierrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14192624134379760772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-21478618646557012682012-01-15T20:03:32.676-08:002012-01-15T20:03:32.676-08:00I have followed your life since the first Allie ar...I have followed your life since the first Allie article in the newspaper. I am going through a divorce right now and know exactly how you feel. Thursday was my meltdown day. I hope you have more better days than bad days.Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15809044510019179685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-58040145418442574282012-01-15T09:08:19.629-08:002012-01-15T09:08:19.629-08:00I am so sorry. May you find peace in your day.I am so sorry. May you find peace in your day.lightshineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05399669778502814527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-90788172312430919322012-01-14T16:29:52.941-08:002012-01-14T16:29:52.941-08:00I'm so sorry you're hurting! You're i...I'm so sorry you're hurting! You're in my prayers...as you've been since I found your story so many years ago.Tonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00606072907344833051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-17274145960343471952012-01-14T09:35:56.563-08:002012-01-14T09:35:56.563-08:00This reminds me of something a friend shared with ...This reminds me of something a friend shared with me about ending a marriage, "we don't necessarily mourn what was, we mourn what could have been." Hang in there. You've been through more in your young years than many endure in a lifetime but I know for a fact that you're way too strong and determined to let this define you! Have a great weekend :)jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13901405990154262068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-51859177889041917752012-01-14T05:37:49.027-08:002012-01-14T05:37:49.027-08:00Know what you mean, totally. Hang in there...Know what you mean, totally. Hang in there...Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11946013805052703096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-10921441704281252142012-01-13T17:07:55.796-08:002012-01-13T17:07:55.796-08:00I'm sorry that you had such a hard day Jenny. ...I'm sorry that you had such a hard day Jenny. You won't ever forget the life you had with Andrew. There will always be days that the memories are hard. My Grandson Mason was born on the same day that Katie was born. He will be 2 on the 23rd...I hope you have fun at your party.Carmenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10324492374126208497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-67931385255798148912012-01-13T15:07:44.466-08:002012-01-13T15:07:44.466-08:00hugs, jenny. you are doing great and of course yo...hugs, jenny. you are doing great and of course you are mourning. but at least you are letting yourself do it - a testament to the tremendous amount of work you've done in learning to honor yourself and your feelings. xosuzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17828344544914552698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-79789686830523985552012-01-13T14:52:37.359-08:002012-01-13T14:52:37.359-08:00It is totally natural to mourn the loss of that dr...It is totally natural to mourn the loss of that dream and that person as well as the affection you rightly assumed he would always hold for you. I still miss Stewart sometimes and we have been apart 10 years. I mourn, like jrobinson above, the dream of one man, one woman for as long as we both shall live. I love Joe (we married two years ago), but I even grieve that he and I will never have children together. It isn't the life I dreamed of as a kid. Honestly, it is a better life now than what I dreamed of. But I still regret the dream ending.<br /><br />I hope you find peace, joy and grace where you least expect it as your birthday approaches. :hug:Sherihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16523200407409657856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-8771632681845198392012-01-13T13:42:09.971-08:002012-01-13T13:42:09.971-08:00And Love the life I have *And Love the life I have *jrobinson0731https://www.blogger.com/profile/10361993832452222636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-73959977370391140252012-01-13T13:41:26.596-08:002012-01-13T13:41:26.596-08:00Hugs jenny! It took me several years to feel bett...Hugs jenny! It took me several years to feel better about my divorce and 8 years after the separation I still feel embarrassed that I got divorced. I love my husband now an love the life I had but I dreamt of marrying one man for my whole life and I'm still disappointed that I don't get to experience that.jrobinson0731https://www.blogger.com/profile/10361993832452222636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-90589091328839849962012-01-13T12:53:15.241-08:002012-01-13T12:53:15.241-08:00Much, much love and comfort to you. Lots of love, ...Much, much love and comfort to you. Lots of love, hugs, and prayers.<br /><br />heatherLove Mommashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12428527032442567969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-17206188646134555302012-01-13T12:40:11.911-08:002012-01-13T12:40:11.911-08:00You're mourning the loss of what you had and w...You're mourning the loss of what you had and what you thought you had. So normal.<br /><br />Hugstriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01176093046888293244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-73551274505920583182012-01-13T11:29:40.828-08:002012-01-13T11:29:40.828-08:00It is a loss, for sure. And so it's totally na...It is a loss, for sure. And so it's totally natural to grieve that loss. <br /><br />I do feel though, that if A wasn't invested in your marriage the way you wanted him to be, you now have much more to GAIN than you would have in your marriage.<br /><br />Hoping your birthday ends up filled with lots of happiness and fun!Lyndsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11191079605746896379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9127592879772702909.post-36825424973699747732012-01-13T10:30:12.168-08:002012-01-13T10:30:12.168-08:00My hearts hurts for you. Stay strong!
Sending my...My hearts hurts for you. Stay strong!<br /><br />Sending my Love to you!<br />KarenKarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09673894927754513305noreply@blogger.com