Thursday, October 20, 2011

Flowers, the Fair, and a Card

It's the simply things that can make the biggest impact.  Flowers sent to your classroom before a first date?  I cannot describe how fun it was to have two giggly teenagers walk into my classroom a few weeks ago with a gorgeous arrangmeent of flowers and excitedly ask who they were from.  Or how fun it was to open a card from a man I was really excited to see again.  We met at a "tweet-up" happy hour with some friends I have on Twitter.  He reluctantly agreed to go with a friend after just joining Twitter.  We chatted a bunch that night then began messaging on Twitter.  We talked for a week before our first date. 

The date could not have been better.   We went to the fair a few days after our first date and spent most of a weekend around each other.  At the fair, we laughed ourselves silly on crazy rides and rollercoasters.  We ate corn dogs, shared a turkey leg, and kissed on the midway.  It was perfect.  The time I spend with him could not be better.

Then the confusion set in.  How could I date TWO men?  How could I like this man so much if I barely knew him?  How could I keep my "no relationship" relationship with the "Non-Boyfriend" if I want to pursue something with the new man?  Could I be ready to give up what I had with NB for a real chance at a real relationship? 

I broke up with NB last week.  I took a huge leap and decided to give it a shot with the other man.  We should give him a name now, huh? For his privacy, I won't use his name.

Breaking up with NB was difficult.  We always agreed we would continue the way we were until it didn't work for us for whatever reason.  We agreed we have a strong friendship too.  I have spoken to him since Sunday and I know he is struggling with his divorce and our breakup.  He didn't want to break up but COULD'NT be more than what we were.  He didnt want us to end but didn't want to stop me from pursuing something great either.  He thinks I'm NUTS for getting involved quickly (I agree), but he hopes ("well, maybe only 80% hope") that it does work with Boyfriend and me.  I miss talking and laughing with him and I sincerely hope we'll be able to still be friends.  I just don't know yet.

So, now I'm in a relationship.  I have....a....boyfriend.  Do you know how much I don't like that word? It feels awkward and new.  It scares me.  I'm terrified of getting hurt again or feeling too strongly for him, but I'm trying so much to go with it.  I want to be with him.  I care so much about him.  He makes me smile, laugh, and melt.  He is kind, attentive, and caring.  He treats me the way no one has ever treated me before.  When he looks at me, it's as if there isn't another person anywhere around. Even when surrounded by thousands in the middle of the fair. 

Last night, I opened my mailbox to find a card.  Y'all, he bought a card.  Wrote in it.  Put a stamp on it and mailed to my home.  Thanked me for "taking a leap."  Yeah, I melted. I don't know what will happen next with us, but I'm looking forward to finding out. 

I took a leap.  He says he will catch me.

36 comments:

Minivan Mom said...

Can't wait to meet him. And let me know how that keeping it casual goes (she says, over a year later, with her casual boyfriend).

Paige said...

Love this. So very happy for you

Laura Seymour said...

here's to taking a leap! enjoy!

One crazed mommy said...

Awwww - I smiled the whole time reading this post! Got goosebumps and teary eyed at the end. Soooooo sweet! Happy for you! :)

Jenng

Meghann said...

This whole post gave me warm fuzzies.

Being with a military man isn't easy, (I'm married to a soldier) but can be very rewarding.

I'm a big fan of leaping, so I'm glad you chose to do it. :)

LisaWV said...

I'm so happy for you! I don't know what all went down in the past year, but damn, you deserve better, and I'm glad someone is making you feel special. Have FUN! Don't worry too much about where it might lead. You are amazing.

MommyOnTheMove said...

Awwwwww Jenny you make me think of when my husband and I were in the begining of dating........your new boyfriend asked you to take the leap and that he'd catch you........Mine asked me to "come fly with me, the view is wonderful!"
So so happy for you........its about time you have someone look at you like you're the only one! Treat you with respect and how every one of us want and love to be treated

Say it.........Boyfriend :) Its not a dirty word LOL You are so deserving!!


Nicky

Sharon C said...

What wonderful news Jenny...so happy you're enjoying yourself and have found a nice fella to make you happy and spoil you with affection. No matter the result, you took the leap...and that's what counts!!

tricia said...

So cool. Enjoy,have fun;you deserve it!

Jodi @ blog-o-licious said...

So exciting!

Stacy said...

I can hear your happiness, and that makes me smile! So happy for you! Enjoy leaping/falling. There's nothing quite like the pure joy of the beginning of a beautiful relationship.

Angie said...

Oh wow! I got all giddy reading this post. Your last line was THE BEST! Wishing you all the happiness in the world, Jenny! Enjoy this special time in your life! :)

Amy said...

Here's to getting all melty.. :) I am glad to read that you are enjoying life right now. Being with a soldier can be challenging, but it is SO rewarding, too. We are currently in South Korea with our soldier. :) Lots of experiences that I could never have given my children otherwise.
And I will be referring a couple of my friends to you blog, they are going through hard times with their divorces, and you write honestly from your heart about your experiences- they need to see that there is happiness on the other end. :)

Lyndsay said...

I'm happy for you Jenny! You deserve to feel special and cherished and loved!

deborah pearce said...

yay!!

Tiffany said...

I am with everyone else. I smiled throughout reading your post. Let it be what it will be. Don't worry about it going too fast or etc. Your heart will let you know what is right.

I also echo what a couple others have said, I too am married to a military man and it can be hard at times, but again, also rewarding. Only strong women need apply, which you obviously have shown that you already are.

Good Luck, Best Wishes, and Have fun!

TX Mommy said...

Jenny,

I'm nearly in tear excited for you. You are so amazingly awesome, glad you took that leap. Have a great weekend.

Krista said...

I am so happy for you! You deserve to be happy! Hope you have a great weekend!

Debbie said...

So Happy for you. You so deserve to be treated like the awesome woman you are.Just enjoy this time and let your heart lead you.

Stacey said...

I'm so happy for you!!! I come here every day for an update and this by far is the best update in awhile and it made me smile! What a great way to start off my Friday, sharing in your happiness.

Good luck!!! This is exactly how it happened to me after my divorce from my first husband. I met someone casually and we are now married and he makes me feel the same way like I'm the only one in the world. It's an amazing feeling!! I still feel like I'm on cloud nine and I've been married 7 months.

Sarah said...

Best of luck to you! I'm so happy for you. You deserve to be happy!!!!

Dawn said...

GREAT post! So happy for you!

The Owl said...

Jenny, I am so thrilled for you! You deserve this so much and sometimes you just throw caution to the wind and see what happens.

Love from an Army Officer's Wife <3

Enjoy that ball, girl!

Tracy said...

Jenny- I have followed you for years and have never responded. I am about three months behind you in the divorce process. I'm at the point that it feels like I'll never be happy again. It gives me so much hope to hear you so happy.

Dusty said...

One day, I hope to be where you are!

Me said...

So happy for you! Enjoy every minute of your new found happiness!

Miss Mia said...

Awwww, loved reading this post!! Made me cry happy tears! Like someone else said, I can just feel you smiling through this post, and it is infectious! You deserve EVERY happiness life has to offer, it couldn't have happened to a better person <3

--Brandi

JoyfullyBlessed5 said...

"He treats me the way no one has ever treated me before. When he looks at me, it's as if there isn't another person anywhere around. Even when surrounded by thousands in the middle of the fair."
this totally just made me tear up, I want what you just described here so badly. I've been married 10 years and don't think I have ever felt this way.
So happy for you!!!

LaJodster said...

I'm so happy for you Jenny! You deserve someone who wants to make you happy.

On a side note, I thought of you & your angel Allie the other day. I know that's weird coming from a cyber friend/stranger. I was at my local mall and there was a booth that had this huge quilt made of squares with pictures of kids who passed from cancer. It hit me like a ton of bricks reading the tributes and I thought of you. The woman approached me and I told her I have a "friend" who lost her daughter as well and she asked if I wanted to buy a square.Through tears I said no thank you but made a donation to their charity and quietly, to myself, said that it was for Allie... Please don't feel like I'm some weirdo,I just wanted you to know...
Keep smileing!
Jody & my puppy Chevy in NJ

Kirsten said...

Love reading about Happy Jenny. Enjoy the military man.

Valerie said...

LOVE LOVE LOVE this post!!

Robin said...

What an awesome update..I love it and love that you took the leap. There's no time limit or time appropriate period to start dating. Things happen when they should! Enjoy and all the best....he sounds wonderful...hey he mailed a card! Woo hoo!

Dawn @ Life Unscripted said...

Bless your face Jenny!! I met my boyfriend in a chat room. We have been together for 11 years!

I'm so excited for you. Over the moon happy. You deserve it all and more. It's a nice feeling to have your heart skip a beat!

Lori said...

This post made me smile, seriously! I could just feel your excitement, your "like" for this guy. How awesome, don't let the fear stop you from going for something that sounds so good!!!!

Carolina said...

I know I'm like 11 days late reading this, but I love it.

Ya'll were adorable at the bar that night and I couldn't be happier for you.

Elena said...

I've actually read this post several times now over several days, & each time I can feel the happiness that you so deserve! Things happen in their own time.

People thought my husband & I were crazy. I met him a few weeks...literally...after filing my divorce. We actually had it put in the final decree to waive the 30 day waiting period to get a new marriage license so that we could get married right away. Part of that was that there was a day within that 30 days that held special significance to us, & that’s when we wanted to get married. We got married 4 months almost to the day that we met, have been married almost 7 years, & haven't regretted a moment.

He actually had a massive heart attack August 6 that they told me he would not survive, but would keep him on life support until family could be assembled. He actually made it & is (now) doing quite well. However, during the time that we were assembling family the one thing I could cling to was that we had always been very close, had NEVER taken a single moment for granted even after all that time, & I could take comfort in that fact. Everyone that thought we were crazy has seen over the years how wonderfully happy we are. We could have waited. That would have been fine. But we were both adults, and by then, we KNEW what we wanted. Getting married at that point gave us so much more time together as a family that we very well could have missed out on. We feel so very blessed that he came through the heart attack & look at this as a second chance to enjoy each other & our family even more. My point is, only YOU know how YOU feel, & if you're happy, go with it! You're worth it and you deserve so much happiness. Good luck to you, no matter what may come!

Elena Ashinhurst