Below is a post from my mom's Facebook account the other day. I love her words and the wisdom she has. Katie recently told me "You know, some people are actually nice to they kids" (yes, she said they). We were driving to school and running late due to some unacceptable morning behavior. I was going to be late for work and I wasn't pleased with Maggie. She had to pay me $2 for my tardiness. This is not the first time and I told her she had to pay me since she was now affecting my job. I told her that her attitude and behavior that morning were completely unacceptable when my little peanut gallery decided to interject. A few days later, I told Katie she couldn't have "zert" if she didn't finish her chicken and vegetables from dinner. GaGa and Mom Mom were there visiting for our Sunday four generations dinner. Sissy then declared me a Mean Mama. How horrible I was for expecting her to eat her healthy meal and not allowing her to just consume junk! Didn't I know better?!?
So, here you have GaGa's wisdom--
This message is for my
daughter, but I'm posting it here because many others of you may relate
to this. I just have to tell you, Jen, that when your 3 year old said
you were a "mean mama" the other night, it really made me smile. I
smiled because I looked over at you and saw a cute little blonde haired
girl who also would have said those same words (along with your
brother). And, at that moment, I was so
proud of you! I know that your "meanness" means that you are doing your
job. Please continue to be "mean." Be mean about not letting them have
dessert if they don't eat their healthy food, be mean when they don't
want to hold your hand when crossing the parking lot, be mean when they
don't want to clean their room, do their homework, go to church, study
for a test, wear inappropriate clothing, watch an R-rated movie, stay
out late, go to a party that you aren't comfortable about, and thousands
of other things that are coming down the pike. Your "meanness" means
that you are setting boundaries and providing them with structure that
will help them mature and become productive adults. I'll thank you
again when we attend their college graduations, but for now I'll just
say... good job! P.S. please don't me mad at me when I offset some of
that meanness, with a little grandmotherly TLC. I've earned it!
Blog friends--what do you think? Are you a Mean Mama like me? I think I'll wear my badge proudly!