My awesome Katie is about to turn five. She is hilarious, smart, and loving. When she is playing, she loves to run back in to the room where I am and kiss me before barrelling back out of the room. She constantly entertains us with her antics and the way she loves to perform for us. She likes to script our play time, telling us exactly what we are to say next. Some of the things she busts out with are the funniest I've ever heard. I honestly don't think I've ever laughed harder than I do from Katie. Recently, she came in singing the alphabet backwards. My husband joked it was her already preparing for her first DUI. She's free spirited and loves life to the fullest. She took her first karate class last week and we're now calling her the "Smackdown Princess." Seriously, it was the greatest thing ever to watch her in karate class. She came out screaming "I LOVED IT!!" Katie is in constant motion. She NEVER sits still.
This child is a force.
With all that said, Katie has her VERY challenging moments. Once this child gets something in her head that she wants to have, do, eat (you get the point), the word NO is utter and complete devastation. The last big meltdown was Wednesday morning when she came in announcing she was wearing her slippers to school. Um...no, you're not. That lasted a good 25 minutes. She screamed that her other shoes hurt her too much. They don't. She screamed that she is allowed to wear her slippers to school. She isn't. She cannot be reasoned with once she gets like that. She will sometimes put herself in her room until she cools down, but most of the time, she will badger us, scream, cry, etc. By the time it's all over, all of us are WHOOPED.
It's not every day, but it a frequent enough occurence for us and her teachers that we are talking all the time about how to help her. Creating incentives for her to work towards. Issuing her consequences. Praising her for correct behavior. Sometimes it helps. Sometimes she couldn't give a crap. Over the years, it's definitely improved. I think we're at once or twice a week and most she can snap out of easier and faster than a few years ago. About a month ago, she had a fit at school and woke all her friends up during naptime. After they finally got her to calm down, she looked at the teacher and said, "uh oh, Mama is going to give me a consequence." Sure did--no sleeping in my bed that night which she had planned to do since my husband was out of town. She loves to sleep with me when it's just me so that was definitely something she was sorry to miss out on. Of course, I then got to deal with the "please, please, please, I'll be better" all night when she knew sleeping with me was a no-go.
Everyone says "it will serve her well later in life to be so strong-willed." OK, I get that, but oof, I need her to make it through childhood without losing what little sanity I have too! We all know I'm a little crazy already, haha!
Do you have the strong-willed child? Any advice?
At least it's a good thing she is damn cute!