I'm not saying I won't have another child one day. I know that I will wake up and feel that my family is incomplete. And when that happens, I will greet another child into our home with the same love as the first two. However, right now is not the right time. I am happy with my current family dynamic. Maggie is spoiled as can be, but with love and attention (well, she probably has a few too many toys too). She is the center of our home life, and we like it that way.
"But don't you want to give Maggie a sibling?" Of course I do, but at the right time. It was not my intention to have Maggie be an only child. If it had been the way we originally hoped, I would be home for the summer from my teaching job with TWO girls, juggling both a 20 month old and a three and a half year old. But sadly, that wasn't in the cards for my life. Allie is not with us and we are making the best of our lives without her. We miss her each day and feel her absense strongly. Maggie will know of Allie. She exclaims "Alla!" when seeing her picture in our hallway each morning.
We know this is the right decision for us right now. Andrew and I are on the same page on this. My best answer when people ask is that we'll discuss the issue when Maggie's two (that's soon, I know). Most likely, we will decide at that time to revisit the issue when she's three! Now, if I were to have an "oops, baby," I'm sure I will be happy. But, with the help of a little pill, I would like to try for the time being to stick with just the one sweet girl I have.
Thanks. Now stop asking!